Tuesday, March 20, 2007

The Whole Wide World (WWW) of Relationships

Valentine's Day has passed. The word "love" or "roses" have seemed to fade away now. However, I just feel agitated to talk more regarding relationships. So be it.

It's funny to see how relationships work (and those that don't). Relationships are all around us. Everywhere. Commercials, movies and TV programs are built on them. We ponder about them, discuss about them and experience them. Perhaps, the first two? Not many of us have embraced significant relationships, though we may desire to.

Relationships are one of the most significant elements of life (H.N. Wright, 1998). Even Max Lucado expressed in his own unique way that a relationship is the delicate fusion of two human beings. The intricate weaving of two lives; two sets of moods, mentalities and temparements. Two intermingling hearts, both seeking solace and security from each other.

Even in the bible, we come across "It is not good for the man to be alone" based on Genesis 2:18.
Many will say, 'It takes 2 hands to clap'. I simply agree with it. But how? How does a couple expand their horizon by strengthening their relationship or marriages beyond their complacent zone?

5 Comments:

Anonymous Anonymous said...

1) Emotional intimacy + communication

2) Spiritual intimacy

3) Companionship

20/3/07 12:34 AM  
Blogger Kay Jin said...

Hmmm, great thought provoking post.

Well, though am wayyyyy NOT an experienced person in this area, but here are some of my 2 sens on how a couple can expand their horizon:

1. Not to take things for granted - always reminding yourself of the beautiful things your partner has done

2. Perseverence - To be able to understand, patient and be faithful despite of the seasons of change and emotions the other half my go through. Being able to really be supportive of that person despite of the mistakes he/ she has done.

3. Serve - Know that in a relationship, even the Biblical principle of "blessed are those to give than to receive" applies in relationships. Give out of your own heart to delight your partner, and not to expect anything from the things you've done. "love is not love until its given away:

4. Fill the relationships with bits and pieces of surprises - Of course doing a big event is really nice, but its also sweet (if not as important) to remember the simple acts of courtesy eg guys opening the door for girls, guys writing notes or sending emails or messages to tell the girl how much he misses her everyday etc. You may be amazed how a person's love tank will always be full if this small and seemingly menial tasks can make a big and lovely differences in relationships.

5. Love and respect - No need to elaborate much. Though a couple may be in one heart, differences in opinions do occur, learn how to deal with each other in a loving way.

After all, the saying goes:
"When you are able to love someone's weakness then it shows you truly love that person"

Its easy to love your partner's strengths, but true love comes when you are able to accept his weaknesses too.

"True love is loving someone when you don't even feel like loving"

=)

Looks like a blog entry in a blog entry ><

P/s Kev I'll comment on your xanga entry later =P

20/3/07 5:16 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Kayjin....

LIKE THAT CALLED NOT PRO AH??!!!!!

21/3/07 1:24 AM  
Blogger piggy said...

Hahaha.... Kevin.. I can tell you Kay Jin is very pro in theory... Practical... err... I dont know lah....

21/3/07 1:25 AM  
Blogger Kay Jin said...

blek blek blek!!!

Hahaha.. what Grace said is true.. practical can get HD while am hopeless in real life~

21/3/07 1:38 PM  

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